This paper confirms a marked change in developmental context and serious delays in identity development in all age groups, which have consequences for relationships in general and therapeutic relationships in particular. These changes in identity development have led to a depathologization of the prolonged transition to adulthood. In addition, it became obvious how much parents may hinder identity development. Recent societal changes leading to a more precarious life are responsible for an increase in reactive identity disturbances. In psychotherapy the endless search for identity, a difficulty to balance individuality and attachment and, considering transference, a too supportive relationship are important issues. Furthermore, it might be useful to discriminate between identity crisis, identity conflict and identity diffusion.