The present paper concerns a class of abstract mixed variational problems governed by a strongly monotone Lipschitz continuous operator. With the existence and uniqueness results in the literature for the problem under consideration, we prove a general convergence result, which shows the continuous dependence of the solution with respect to the data by using arguments of monotonicity, compactness, lower semicontinuity and Mosco convergence. Then we consider an associated optimal control problem for which we prove the existence of optimal pairs. The mathematical tools developed in this paper are useful in the analysis and control of a large class of boundary value problems which, in a weak formulation, lead to mixed variational problems. To provide an example, we illustrate our results in the study of a mathematical model which describes the equilibrium of an elastic body in frictional contact with a foundation.